The guilt augh

[unicornduke]

I just booked the flight for a work trip for the end of February, big trip, five days to the opposite coast, my first time going west of indiana. If all goes well, I'll be giving my notice just after it. Unofficial notice, I'll be telling my boss, C before I give official notice.

If C weren't my boss, I would have told her already and I wouldn't feel so guilty. Before she was my boss, I went to her place for some holidays, I literally lived in her barn apartment and did laundry in her house for five months. We've watched each other's dogs. But I can't give her earlier notice because I'm afraid she'll tell others and make changes based on that given the big projects this year and I still need to pay my mortgage through march

arg

Comments

[graydon]

The necessity of late capitalism does rather mess with social convention. That doesn't mean it stops being necessity.

And, well, you need to pay your mortgage through at least March; nothing is certain until it happens and all that.

[unicornduke]

Writing things out, I've realized my worry is actually that C won't want to be friends afterwards. I don't think she's that kind of person, but maybe she is and I don't know it. I said to one of the other commentors, that March is actually not the worst time to leave. The worst time would be June or July. March, they have a chance to actually hire someone in time for harvest.

[graydon]

"Folks getting too old for farm work, taking over the farm" ought to be a highly comprehensible motivation, too.

[unicornduke]

Yeah, I think she'll understand. Hopefully.

[graydon]

Hopefully!

[reedrover]

I think you are being smart. There’s “giving soft notice” and there’s setting yourself up for an early layoff.

Best wishes on the trip!

[unicornduke]

I did start thinking about it, and it's not like I'm leaving in May or July, which would actually be much worse timings. March, they might actually be able to get someone hired in time for the busy season.

I'm actually pretty excited for the trip, I've never been to the West Coast! I think it'll be fun even if I'm in a conference for most of it.

[which_chick]

At the end of the day, you have to make the best decision for you. And sometimes that really sucks. My office (tiny, it's me, my 82 year old father, and my office person) has been short-handed since Thanksgiving as office person has been out due to surgery on her ankle and slow recovery of same with PT and stuff. We paid full wage for her through the end of 2024 and now have her on half pay. She has worked for us for twenty years, but also I need someone in the office and I can't keep paying her to not be here because I need that money to pay someone who CAN be here. I've hired a temp-that-may-become-permanent so that I have a human being in the office. I'm paying the temp 3 days a week as a contractor (so no w2 yet), but if my office person cannot make it back into the office by the end of February, I'm going to fire her (and pay her healthcare until she gets on medicare in October 2025 so that she's not uninsured) and move forward. I do understand that she is out due to surgery and stuff but also I need someone in here to do the damn books and I can't wait for fucking ever.

[unicornduke]

In my mind, you're being very reasonable to your office person. The work needs to get done!

I just know I'm going to screw C over somewhat, but I think she'll have the resources to hire an outside person to work on these projects and they'll probably get someone hired in time for the bulk of the work in July/August. I guess I'm worried about her not wanting to be friends afterwards really. And the projects are extremely cool, so I am sad to be missing them.