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[unicornduke]

 I mention one possible thing about my job and that's the only thing my mom remembers about work and is fucking obsessed with it oh my god

Work has a thing in the contract that they may cut hours in the winter depending on workload and budget. I mentioned this offhand to mom when I first took the job and it is literally the only thing she will bring up over and over and over again. It's been almost a year since I took this job. I think she's brought it up every month or two. 

holy shit. 

I've gotten confirmation from my boss that I'm not getting my hours cut because I've got plenty to do and they like me and there's budget. 

But she won't. stop. asking.

I just responded to her email and said "they aren't going to cut hours. please stop asking about that"

okay, back to enjoyable things like seeds and maybe playing video games

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[graydon]

One thing that's difficult for many parents is to stop constantly worrying about the kid. In an ideal world, growing up is a steadily decreasing degree of worry and by the time the kid is an adult worry is only warranted on special occasions, but that's not how these things often go.

So combine scant listening with $WORRY and it can be difficult to explain that, even if that was a worry then, it's not a worry now.

[unicornduke]

I mean, the thing about this job is that it is 100000x better than my previous job, in all ways but pure $. And with mileage paid by them and my sidejob, I make enough money to keep me even.

So the fact that she's focusing so much on this one possible negative, possible it isn't even for sure, is really irritating. I suspect some of it is 1. she's an anxious person and I get it from her 2. my younger sib is in their final ish year of college so all the kids are out of the house and now I'm the kid she talks to most frequently because of how much I go home. 3. I don't know if she does anything fun.

like, she gets SO ANXIOUS, and I understand, the farm consumes all and it's hard to break free of it even though she doesn't like the farm that much. But come on. I'm working on all these cool projects, I'm doing all this neat stuff, I'm traveling, I'm planning things, there's a million things to talk about.

Oh well. I think she'll drop it now that I asked her to. Hopefully.

[graydon]

Here's hoping!

Anxiety is a really tough thing to improve from the outside; it can sometimes help to ask what's setting it off (at some time it's not going off!), but, yeah. Kinda inherently not your problem, in that you can't do anything about it.