House stress house stress

[unicornduke]

We got the roof estimate yesterday and sent it to the attorney with our wants and finals and oh boy howdy things are getting weird.

a new roof is anywhere from 12k to 16k as quoted to us. Turns out the house had 3 layers of shingles what the heck. This house was not sold as-is so we could negotiate with the seller about a serious issue. The roof is a serious issue!

There was a list of other things that needed work including the windows which were also flagged as a major issue.

Our attorney sent the first offer to the seller's attorney of 12k credit to us.

Their attorney came back and said the seller just needed us to come down on that. uhhhh, that's not how negotiating works bud, even I know that.

Our attorney said we needed a firm number and their attorney said and I quote "I think she can do 1500"

shits getting weird! 

so F and I talked it over, we are willing to overlook all these other things wrong with the house if the seller is willing to credit back 6k, which is honestly, not a lot given when I talked over the list of fixes, we probably have 25k of stuff to be fixed with most of that being windows tbh, but a decent amount of other stuff to do. So for the seller to be so unwilling to work with us on 6k is just arg. it's a 290k sale! and yes, there's fees and commissions and other stuff. but come on

We'll see! we're waiting to hear back. If she isn't willing to do 6k, we're going to walk away. Yeah, we'll lose out on what we've paid out but come on. Work with us. I've got some fun adventures tomorrow so that will be a great distraction from thinking too much about this.

Comments

[graydon]

I laid on the ground outside for about an hour right around dinner time with Mara and that definitely helped with stress levels.

You are exceedingly sensible!

The rest of the post is sensible, too, but that kind of practicality about stress is rare and enviable.

Real Estate, along with car dealerships, are how you make money on pure social skills. You don't have to have any skills with unforgiving material anything and it's been an amazing way to make money for quite awhile. So the feedback tends to fill it up with folks who are not especially clever and not especially skilled at not getting trapped in their own narrative. The occasional smart person very focused on the money can be extremely helpful, but is not the way to bet.

Then there's the three hundred and seventy seven separate varieties of generational politeness narrative. That can go fractally weird in totally opaque ways, because you'd have to know the person their whole life to have any idea what exactly is going on, and this isn't stopping them from expecting you to behave the way they expect. It sounds a bit like that's what's going on with the seller.

[ranunculus]

I agree about being sensible about stress. Also that 6K is a very modest request. Hope it all works in the end. We bought our place in SF "as is" and the first thing we replaced was the roof, and the water heaters.