Storm

[unicornduke]

I'm now even more deeply irritated at F for not clearing the whole driveway last week. Everything she didn't clear has become a solid sheet of ice, but it was primarily that most uphill parts of the driveway she didn't clear, because she doesn't park there and also doesn't need to load things into her vehicle. I park there and I will need to load my truck with another load of items to go to my parents next weekend (probably). 

We have a storm today that gave us 3 inches of snow already and will be wintery mix this afternoon. I decided to clear snow as soon as it looked like it would switch to ice because at least then the blacktop and sun will melt the ice in the next day or so. I just came in from doing that and it is impossible to clear snow on any part of the driveway that is iced over, the snowblower simply can't get any traction and it isn't safe to do it by hand because of how sloped the driveway is. So now we have compounded snow/ice problems at the top of our driveway. 

I'm not blaming her for the ice down below the house, that is from the snow that dumped off the house all at once and became ice but that's a small area and will need salting anyway because it's right at the top of the ramp.

I just need to keep telling myself this isn't my problem in two months but it's so annoying now because I put a lot of work into making sure the driveway was fully cleared anytime we got any snow because I knew this was going to happen. 

Comments

[ranunculus]

The issues you have had with your roommate often seem to be ones of passive aggressive non-actions. She wouldn't clean common areas in ways that are important to you, and she showed zero consideration of you in clearing the driveway.
If you aren't already talking to your therapist about ways to identify and avoid problems with that kind of personality, then you probably should be. I would suggest written agreements spelling out duties and expectations in any future living together situation. As a guide, the "Living Together Kit" published by Nolo Press. It has great suggestions, has been around for many decades and is still being updated and published. I have found its suggestions very helpful.

[reedrover]

Huge sympathy. I know how not moving snow can compound problems as it refreezes and then becomes impossible without a backhoe.